Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Stitch Fix #3: A big let down!

Ugh!  Just when I thought Stitch Fix was on the right track, I get another bummer of a Fix.

Now, on one hand, they really are improving by sending me pieces that are a little more "me."  They're showing me that they're listening, which is GREAT.  When I opened my Stitch Fix today, I was super excited by the color scheme AND the little outfit cards they give you.

Mustard, a really pretty blue, a pair of pants that I requested, AND a statement necklace? Now we're talking!  ...or so I thought.  I started throwing things on...

Fun2Fun Damon Sheer Detail Key-Hole Blouse - $44

"I noticed that you like yellow tones, so I am sending you [this top] in mustard..." says my stylist, Dan-Thy.

Yeah.  This top might have worked if I didn't have boobs and was three inches shorter, but this was unwearable.  I was expecting as much, though, because I had peeked at someone else's September Fix and they had reported this shirt ran way small.  (Another downside was that it was so sheer that you could see my entire bra...no thank you.)

If this had been longer and more loose up top, I would have loved this.  Verdict? Sent back!

Skies are Blue Halli 3/4 Sleeve Lined Blazer - $78

I wasn't at all sure that I needed another blazer, although the blue was pretty, so I gave it a shot.  As soon as I put it on I decided I loved it...and look how great it looks with the mustard top!  The material was so lightweight and it was super comfortable even though it was lined.  It looked great in the front...super flattering and the perfect length, and then I turned around and...
...oh. Cue Chris Farley singing "Fat Guy in a Little Coat" and...well, you get the idea. The blazer was roomy enough about the shoulders, but I had visions of splitting the back of this as I reached for something.  And at the price point of $78, that's an expensive embarrassing moment.  Verdict? Sent back!

Brixton Ivy Heidi Scallop Hem Pencil Skirt - $64

I've never owned anything "scalloped" so I gave this a try.  It had pockets, which I LOVED, and they were big and roomy, which women's pockets never are.  This blue matched the blue of the blazer perfectly.  It would have been a nice work outfit, if I was the kind of girl who wore matching blazers and skirts.  But...I couldn't zip the back zipper all the way.  Womp, womp.  Verdict? Sent back!  (I probably would have sent it back even if it DID zip all the way.)

Pixley Lenora Square Gem Bib Necklace - $42
I've been asking Stitch Fix for a "statement necklace" since day one.  Like, specifically.  I finally gave in bought my own, and took any mention of "statement necklace" out of my letters to my stylist...and what do I get?  Oh.  A statement necklace.  Well.  Better late than never, I guess.

I'm feeling "meh" at best about this necklace.  The colors are a little too muted.  I'm still on the fence about it, but I'm leaning towards no.

Kut From the Kloth Danny 5-Pocket Knit Pant - $68

(Yes, I'm using the same photo like a cheater.)

I'm actually really upset about this, to the point that I think I'm going to send Stitch Fix an email about it.  I fell in love with my burgundy Kut From the Kloth pants from my last Fix, so I specifically requested more.  I would have loved them in a fall color like dark green or mustard,  but all they had was gray so they sent me that, with a note that they could send them in black as well.  This was an EASY sale--I asked for these pants and I got them.  It should have been an easy sale, anyway...

As you can see here, these are BOTH "Jennifer Ultra Skinny Size 12."  (For some reason, Stitch Fix calls them "Danny," but I assure you they are the same exact pants.

What I don't understand is why the burgundy pants fit AWESOME, and the gray pants I can't even button! I'm not even joking, I would have needed probably an extra four inches of material in the waistband in order to button them. Same exact size, same exact cut...what's up with that?  Are they a mislabeled 10, or are the burgundy pants a mislabeled 14?  Either way, I'm disappointed that I can't just say "hey, send me another pair of pants in a different color!" and get a pair of pants that fit.  Logically, they should both fit.

I was going to give Stitch Fix three chances to get things right, but this has been my third fix and I'm still not sure how I feel about them.  This Fix totally struck out fit-wise...there was not a single piece that fit well enough to keep.  Not to mention, someone from Stitch Fix promised me a refund when I returned the earrings with my last Fix, and that's the last I heard of it.  I DID get a credit (which they also promised) but, I didn't get the refund.  I guess it's time to fire off an email...they seemed eager to set things right last time, so I hope they will again.

As usual, if you want to try out Stitch Fix for yourself, feel free to sign up using my referral link

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Clearing the air about PCOS and Infertility.

The other day, HelloGiggles posted an essay of mine... "What No One Told Me About Taking a Fertility Test."

You may have read it...in fact, that might be the reason you found my blog in the first place. In that case, hello!

I've received a TON of feedback from readers around the world, and it tends to fall into two categories: people thanking me for starting the conversation about this important (and sometimes taboo) topic, and people who are disappointed that my article didn't represent PCOS and/or infertility correctly.

Here's the thing: This essay was based on my personal experience only. I only wrote about what I had been told by medical professionals, but as it turns out, I had some misinformation.  And perpetuating misinformation, even in a situation such as this, can be damaging.  Because of this, I'd like to take a minute and clear up some key points:

  • Fertility cannot be truly determined based on one blood test.  Many women take hundreds of tests over the course of years.  My experience is not typical of your average woman who is faced with possible infertility. And, just because this one test came back with normal levels, it doesn't mean I won't have issues further down the line. There are probably a million different factors that influence fertility--the AMH test only tests for ovarian reserve. If you notice, I don't use definitive language in my essay: I will "presumably" be able to conceive.
  • But wait, the AMH test can show high levels in someone with PCOS. Yes. But the point isn't that I have a high amount of eggs--the point is I have a normal amount of eggs. This is good news.
  • Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) does not always equal trouble with fertility, as you can read here. I was told by multiple doctors that because I 'most likely' had PCOS and that I would 'most likely' not be able to have children. A friend of mine was told the same thing. I had no idea (until HelloGiggles readers came forward) that this wasn't always true.
  • Why weren't the answers doctors gave me more definitive? I went to a small clinic that will remain unnamed. They specialized in mostly pap smears, STD testing, and birth control. They were not equipped to deal with fertility issues. They told me I could go to a different doctor for a more definitive test, but they said it wouldn't make much of a difference because they would simply put me on birth control for my PCOS--which is what the clinic was already doing. At the time, the AMH test did not exist.
  • Your doctor meant you "wouldn't be able to get pregnant on your own." Stop making your doctor out to be an idiot. If that is what my doctor--my multiple doctors--had meant, that is what they should have said. How am I supposed to infer their meaning? Also, as I mentioned, this was over seven years ago. Maybe less was known about PCOS then, which is why they told me that? I'm not making anyone out to be anything--I'm simply relaying MY experience of what happened to YOU, the reader. If you don't like it, I apologize, but it is sincere.

For more information about PCOS, check out this fact sheet at womenshealth.gov.
For more information about infertility, infertility treatments, and testing, check out this page at MedlinePlus.
For more information about AMH testing, which is the specific test I had done, check out this article over at advancedfertility.com.
And for information on In Vitro Fertilization, check out this page at americanpregnancy.org.

Readers, thank you for challenging me on this important topic and giving me a chance to clear the air.  Other readers have expressed interest in reading more stories like this, and I hope that if you have a story about infertility to share, that you won't hesitate to submit it.